February 2012
38 posts
Passing for the Effeminate Trans Guy →
artoftransliness:
Someone recently asked about passing tips, and these are great (regardless of whether or not you are femme identified or effeminate).
I don’t usually reblog content about passing because I think we already focus too much on fitting in and being invisible, but this list was very refreshing.
"You don't need that dress/thong/diet to be sexy...
Is NOT a good reply to a woman who has just shown you her new look. Here’s three reasons:
1. You’re assuming that her choice was motivated by a lack of self-esteem rather than by a desire to express herself. Don’t do that. Never assume that a woman has low self-esteem. The assumption that most women have low self-esteem reinforces the idea that to be normal women...
Minority and activist, try not to get those two...
If you are a member of an oppressed minority, it is NOT your job to educate ignorant privileged people about your life and how they should treat you. You don’t have to try to educate or change any of them. You should live your own life as you see fit and they can f*** off.
But if you are an activist, then educating ignorant privileged people about how they should treat you is at the heart...
Becoming a better activist and a better person....
The hardest part about becoming a better person is admitting that you have done the things you hate. You have discriminated, you have excluded, you have used words that you shouldn’t use. It may be out of ignorance but you did those things.
That’s a painful thing to know, but it’s a bridge we must all cross if we want to be better people. We even have to accept that no matter...
Ways Gender-Privileged Men Can Challenge Sexism
meeca:
(This list will be forever in-progress. Please add on as you see fit).
Challenge sexist jokes, such as dumb blonde jokes or jokes about rape.
Avoid using words such as “bitch”, “hoe”, “slut.”
Recognize when you “zone out” when women are speaking, when you value a man’s opinion more than a woman’s, or when you ask a man for information or advice rather than a woman.
Recognize times...
“Everybody knows what you’re against. Show them what you’re for. Then become the...”
– Andrea Gibson, Evolution (via brennando)
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“Do I think this is the last word on his orientation? I don’t know....”
– When Your 7-Year-Old Son Announces, ‘I’m Gay’ by Amelia
“We spend a lot of time talking about how What It Is That We Do isn’t...”
– Safe/Ward: I never called it rape.
An excellent article on rape culture within the bdsm scene.
trans-spirituality:
Transgender Reverend Tells All
Sep 27, 2009 | The Epworth United Methodist Church [in Portland, OR] has strong roots, dating back to its founding in 1935, but its members welcome a break from tradition.
That break can be no more easily personified than with pastor David Weekley.
“We liked him from the beginning,” said church member George Azumano.
More than two...
Privilege and debate.
Privilege is a dangerous word to use when debating, so here’s a little reminder to myself and others who use it:
Don’t use the word ‘privilege’ as a way to be less critical of yourself and your own opinions. Having experiences of oppression does not mean you are always right when you talk about them.
Do not let ‘You are just privileged’ be a way to say...
Gender roles and language
Gender roles and language can be dealt with in three ways (probably more, but I wanna talk about these three now):
- You can be oblivious to it. You can never question the language people have used to describe you, the roles they have put you in and the way they have taught you to talk about yourself.
- You can know that gender roles and language have power over you. That not having the words...
Safer Sex and Contraception for Trans* Guys
artoftransliness:
A lot of us are less than well-informed about how to have safe sex and prevent pregnancy as trans* guys, partially because there isn’t a lot of information out there specifically for us.
-For oral sex involving vulvas (vulvae?), a good way to reduce the chance of STI transmission is to use dental dams. These can be purchased at sex shops and similar locations or created using...
“There are tons of people– male people, even!– who don’t have sex. […] I know...”
– Tim Gunn Hasn’t Had Sex In 29 Years, And It’s None Of Our Fucking Business | No, Seriously, What About Teh Menz? (via sexisnottheenemy)
artoftransliness:
How To Ask A Trans Person Questions Without Being Insensitive About It
A great text, which covers most important things to consider. It left out one thing though, that I think is very important:
Ask yourself why you want to know the thing you’re asking.
Especially if the question you are about to ask is a personal one, this is really important to consider. Why are you...
Russian Lawmakers in St. Petersburg are about to... →
“Trigger Warning: rape, rape culture, rape jokes To all those who don’t think the...”
– [Source] (via keylimepie)
“Do you say that you are a “gay man in a woman’s body”? Please stop saying that....”
– Part of a quite helpful post about (rare but existing) misogyny in slash communities.
Leave the Girl, it's the Man I Want: The Evolving... →
