Some Boys Like Dolls: Deconstructing the (Trans)Gender Binary — Lucas Walden (via klutzygeek)
This this this. Transgender children are not ‘male children who act in ways that are traditionally feminine / female children who act in ways that are traditionally masculine’. Wonder whether a child is transgender? Do the same things you should do with an adult: LISTEN TO THEM.
If you mock people who have STIs you are a horrible person
If you describe your STI status as “clean” you are a horrible person
If you base a persons worth on wether they do or do not have STIs you are a horrible person
If you use STIs as ways to negatively describe things that are not STIs you are a horrible person
If you expose someone else’s personal STI status to another person you are a horrible person
If you contribute to the toxic atmosphere that makes people afraid to talk about getting tested you are a horrible person
If you contribute to the social structure that shames and dehumanizes and excludes people who have STIs you are a horrible person
If you contribute to the system that makes it so people who do have STIs are afraid to even attempt to form relationships you are a horrible person
STIs are fucking common. Some are easy fixes. Some are not. Some are visible. Some are not.
Having an STI is life changing.
However this is mainly due to social stigma and bullshit and ignorance around STIs.
Because yes the physical side of an STI is difficult… but it doesn’t have shit on suddenly having your entire worth based on something that more often than not was out of your control.
Because the system doesn’t teach about using protection… or that protection does not necessarily mean you cannot contract an STI.
Because the system makes the idea of getting tested scary.
Because the system makes getting tested inaccessible.
Because many many people have STIs and don’t know.
Because some people do conceal their STIs…sometimes out of malice, but more often than not, they do so out of fear.
Because society teaches that people who have STIs are dirty foul pieces of shit who are overly sexual and deserve what they got.
Because society teaches us that if you have an STI no one will ever love you or want to touch you.
Because society doesn’t teach us about communication, about understanding, about the fact that people will still want you.
Because yes. Having an STI will deter some people.
But with those that stay you can have aware informed conversations about communication and protection and risk. And you can decide wether or not you want to ~fluid bond~.
We need to start talking.
We need to stop shaming.
This needs to change.
Note how white applicants with a criminal record still have better chances than black applicants without one.
Is to always misgender trans* identities by lumping them into one category: “transgenders.”
I keep seeing this happen in bi vs pan arguments. It’s a surefire way for telling me you don’t know what you’re talking about.
Not only are you erasing transgender identities that do fall within a binary male or female identity, you are being grossly offensive to these people who have to fight damn hard to get their identities recognized as such.
Stop treating these people as part of some totally separate gender when a big part of trans activism is fighting for trans male and female identities to be accepted as equal in name and social status to cisgender male and female identities, this isn’t a new or alien concept.
Thanks for at least realizing that there are such things as genders wholly separate from the binary, I appreciate that much, but you’re phrasing is terrible and demonstrates your ignorance in a way that alienates people.
At least stop using words like “transgenders” to describe literally everyone trans, I don’t think that’s even a word.
Also “transgenders” is considered offensive. Trans* people would be better, or such is my understanding. If you are trans* and disagree, please let me know.
Well, I definitely disagree. ‘Transgender’ has in the past been used only to describe those who identified outside the binary but words change and for the last decade it’s often been used as an umbrella-term for everyone who is not cisgender. This change occurred within trans communities, it wasn’t something cisgenders did. Personally, I use ‘transgender’ as an umbrella term and prefer it to trans*, as do a lot of transgender communities.
So yeah, I identify within the binary (as a transman) and you can call me transgender. I call myself a transman, a transsexual, transgender, but never trans*.
So calling people bad allies for using the word transgender the exact same way a lot of transgender communities use the word - as an umbrella term for for not-cisgendered - seems dumb to me.
And after all these years, the trans community is still at the back of the bus. I despise that. I’m hurt and get depressed a lot about it. But I will not give up because I won’t give the mainstream gay organizations the satisfaction of keeping us down. If we give up, they win. And we can’t allow them to win. The reason we, right now, as a trans community, don’t have the rights they have is that we allowed them to speak for us for so many damn years, and we bought everything they said to us: “Oh, let us pass our bill, then we’ll come for you.”
Yeah, come for me. Thirty-two years later and they’re still coming for me. And what have we got? Here, where it all started, trans people have got nothing. We can no longer let people like the Empire State Pride Agenda, the HRC in Washington, speak for us. And it really hurts me that some gay people don’t even know what we gave for their movement.
|—||Sylvia Rivera in Genderqueer: Voices from Beyond the Binary (via queeraztlan)|
Lovin’ this zine.
YES THANK YOU YES
(Posted as a reminder to myself and others cause I’vee pulled this shit before myself and it’s not cute)
Women invented all the core technologies that made civilization possible. This isn’t some feminist myth; it’s what modern anthropologists believe. Women are thought to have invented pottery, basketmaking, weaving, textiles, horticulture, and agriculture. That’s right: without women’s inventions, we wouldn’t be able to carry things or store things or tie things up or go fishing or hunt with nets or haft a blade or wear clothes or grow our food or live in permanent settlements. Suck on that.
Women have continued to be involved in the creation and advancement of civilization throughout history, whether you know it or not. Pick anything—a technology, a science, an art form, a school of thought—and start digging into the background. You’ll find women there, I guarantee, making critical contributions and often inventing the damn shit in the first place.
Women have made those contributions in spite of astonishing hurdles. Hurdles like not being allowed to go to school. Hurdles like not being allowed to work in an office with men, or join a professional society, or walk on the street, or own property. Example: look up Lise Meitner some time. When she was born in 1878 it was illegal in Austria for girls to attend school past the age of 13. Once the laws finally eased up and she could go to university, she wasn’t allowed to study with the men. Then she got a research post but wasn’t allowed to use the lab on account of girl cooties. Her whole life was like this, but she still managed to discover nuclear fucking fission. Then the Nobel committee gave the prize to her junior male colleague and ignored her existence completely.
Men in all patriarchal civilizations, including ours, have worked to downplay or deny women’s creative contributions. That’s because patriarchy is founded on the belief that women are breeding stock and men are the only people who can think. The easiest way for men to erase women’s contributions is to simply ignore that they happened. Because when you ignore something, it gets forgotten. People in the next generation don’t hear about it, and so they grow up thinking that no women have ever done anything. And then when women in their generation do stuff, they think “it’s a fluke, never happened before in the history of the world, ignore it.” And so they ignore it, and it gets forgotten. And on and on and on. The New York Times article is a perfect illustration of this principle in action.
Finally, and this is important: even those women who weren’t inventors and intellectuals, even those women who really did spend all their lives doing stereotypical “women’s work”—they also built this world. The mundane labor of life is what makes everything else possible. Before you can have scientists and engineers and artists, you have to have a whole bunch of people (and it’s usually women) to hold down the basics: to grow and harvest and cook the food, to provide clothes and shelter, to fetch the firewood and the water, to nurture and nurse, to tend and teach. Every single scrap of civilized inventing and dreaming and thinking rides on top of that foundation. Never forget that.
from a post by Reclusive Leftist on women’s erasure in history.
her comments relate specifically to an article by the NYT thanking “the men” who invented modern technology, but pick absolutely any academic field of study, and women’s contributions are minimized, if not outright ignored.
literature has been a huge part of my life for a long time, and i grew up reading the classics—which, of course, are typically books written by white men, depicting their experiences. i was taught that the first “modern novel” was Don Quixote, written in the early 1600s by a guy (Cervantes). i don’t think i know of a word to accurately describe my mixture of outrage, shock, and pride, when i discovered later that actually, the first modern novel was written 600 years earlier—by a woman! (it’s The Tale of Genji, written by a Japanese lady-in-waiting who was known as Murasaki Shikibu.)
this might not seem important, but if you’re a woman you know just how vital this knowledge is. even now, when women are being told that we can do anything we set our minds to, the historical, literary, and scientific figures we learn about are all men. it’s a much more insidious way to discourage women from aiming high—because what’s the point in putting in so much hard work if it’s not even going to be remembered after you’re dead?
So… this is the equal marriage law that includes a clause that gives you spouse the right to decide whether you can change your gender marker. I’d hate to break it to you Ed Miliband, but that’s an awful slogan. If you really think the person you love shouldn’t determine the right you have, you should be fighting for a better law.